Questions, anyone?

Hello bloggees! Welcome back to another episode of 'whatever comes next'.  Always an adventure, and to quote the great Forest Gump, "...You never know what you're gonna get."So I have decided, unpurposefully, that my summer blog theme is going to be "questions". Because, well folks, it is a questionable world out there right now. Maybe more so than it has been in a long while.  

But anyways, my question for everyone is about questions.  Let me backup a minute and give you some lead-up.

Most people have other people they can turn to for advice, and generally that person may provide trustworthy opinions mixed with a touch of  guidance. We will call these people 'Advisors' - betcha didn't see that coming, lol.  So these advisors can usually be pointed out as having a lot of experience in something, including life itself, and/or educated and/or intellectual.  We all know someone who fits this profile.

Well this is great and all- for the seekers of advice, but what happens when the advisor needs advice? Like, for example, where would Merriam and Webster or Oxford go if they had no idea what a certain word means? Seriously! This is a genuine question, because who do people turn to that are usually the ones that others turn to when they need help? 
I have found that I am often the one that others turn to, especially in my family, when they have questions about almost anything.  They all know that I have always read anything I could and when it comes to not knowing a fact, I will research the hell out of it until I feel satisfied that I know enough about it.  Call me odd, but when I don't know something that I think is important or necessary, it literally makes me feel uneasy or anxious.  Once I have done some research into it, even if not thoroughly, it actually calms my nerves a bit. Weird, right? 

That being said, I have a pretty expansive knowledge base about some really important things, with the side effect of being a knower of the most useless information (which I disagree because it helps to win trivia games-another one of my favorite things to do      [a secondary side effect of this is the fact that I am sometimes accused of cheating, because how on earth would i know that Marilyn Monroe was actually a true redhead, not blond or brunette? See what I mean?]

Okay, sorry, getting back on track now...

So in addition to my family, for example,  coming to me for knowledge based questions, some of them ask for personal advice as well. If it was me, I would want to know the honest truth, not just hear something they think I want to hear.  I would want an unbiased opinion, based on the facts of the matter, and after hearing either the whole story or both sides of the story, combined with the facts of the matter.-You would be really surprised at how hard it is to find this type of person.  But this is generally my personal approach to giving any advice or guidance.  

I am the type of person, and have been in this exact situation, where you have one person asking the advice from a group of friends who all say "oh, yes for sure, definitely, yes." and then there is me, the sore thumb that says "oh, hell no." Oh the looks I get when they realize that I may have just upset the balance of agreeability.   And it is not that I am purposefully trying to go against the group, which can be interesting in some situations, but I am genuinely giving my advice based on all aspects of the situation.  This is also the point where I am often accused of being insensitive or cold. I'm really not. I have a few tear triggers, not many, but they do exist.  

The truth is, that if I was seeking guidance I would want the same respect of an honest, unbiased opinion with a legitimate rasional  behind it. Even if the end result is undesirable, at least I can say that it was well thought out and pursued in good faith, or good cause, or any other good. 

So going back to my initial question? Where do the advisors go for advice?  I can't really go to my girlfriends when I need advice about an issue with my partner, because, hey, let's be honest here, girlfriends have a tendency to automatically take your side, that is why they are your girlfriends. Great for fights, horrible for advice.  And I can't go to another guy and ask his advice, (not that I actually have any that I would go to) bc that guy is going to fall under one of a few categories, 1) they really don't give a crap about your problems, let alone hear about them, 2) they are opportunistic and have been waiting for the moment when there is a tiff in your relationship and they can now be extra comforting and available just to weasel their way into your good graces, and other things, 3) they are untrustworthy or just not either socially or intellectually inept to handle, let alone give advice on the matter, or 4) while not a category of men themselves but this would be the category of your male partner being absolutely pissed that you are discussing your personal relationships with any other man. 

Square one it is. So who is next? I could ask Dear Abbey (showing age here), but if she couldn't answer my questions, who would she turn to ???? Dun Dun Duuuuuuuhhhhhh!

Ahhhhhhhhhh. 

So feel free to chime in on providing guidance here, but only if you are educated, intelligent, full of life experiences(good, bad, questionable), completely unbiased, unconcerned with the opinions of the masses and/or status quo, not seeking anyone's approval, unbothered by people who disagree with you, don't value your opinion, don't like you or that cannot stand you.  All others, please move along.  Hee hee hee.

Thanks for being here! 
Take care and smile!